I made a post on Facebook a few days ago, and decided to share it here. It’s not a formal blog- just a brief musing.
“Love”, by Alexander Milov
I want to take a few moments to write about grief, loss, and difficult emotions. I know it can be very hard to share, and I know on the other end, it can be very hard to respond to. As of late, so many people I know are experiencing personal grief, in addition to the larger scale disasters and atrocities occurring in what appears to be more rapid and frequent succession.
We mourn many different reasons: the loss of life of someone dear to us, an era of our life, a relationship that could’ve been, a love we’ve lost, natural disasters, a violent mass tragedy, our health/the health of someone we know, a period of our life that can’t be replicated, the end of a friendship, and so many other situations we may not recognize as grief-inducing.
Each person’s grief looks different: it can manifest in manifesting manic distractions, in total numbness, in paralyzing sadness, to name a few. In navigating grief, it’s important to know your reaction and needs may look very different than “conventional” responses.
When I grieve, I often need to move, dance and sing . I often need to be alone and get still until songs get written. I need to pour my pain into the fire and come out with something forged from my experience. I know it can look a little off to those who don’t process in a certain way, and in the past, I was very quiet about this part of me.
I just want to say: if you are are going through it, be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself. Ask for help from people you trust. Explore what helps you safely process and heal, and try to repeat those experiences. If no one has told you recently, you are loved and deserve safety and happiness. If you know and love someone going through something difficult, ask what they need; they may not have an answer, and you may not, either, but sometimes knowing someone cares is the most powerful medicine.
Loved it, especially the second last paragraph. The way you have portrayed pain and grief with you words is just beautiful. You should definitely write more on this.